I am not good with change. When my friends make or have other friends, and start hanging out with them more, I feel... cheated. Or something, and that's a shitty feeling. I know it's really pathetic, but especially when they don't make time for our friendship, something has to be going on. Maybe it's me? I really suck at keeping more than one really close friend, but, I CAN keep more than one friend. I am pretty good about delegating my time.
I have this friend who I really enjoy being around, but I knew I wasn't her "bestie" which is fine and dandy, whatever. But her "bestie" was away so we were hanging out more, getting to know each other better. I was trying to be an adult and "mature" so, I had to voice my worry of her not hanging out with me anymore when her "bestie" gets back. She basically said "yeah my bestie hogs me, sorry." and that's about it. I didn't get an ounce of like "Oh, okay, I'm sorry, I will try harder to hang out with you." or any kind of reconciliation of my worry. And you know what happened? I haven't hung out with her. And you know how that makes me feel? Right, like poop. lol.
So what can I do to make friends, that are 'real' friends? I know that my 'real' friends can't all be in the states. Though, I am not sure about them either. Because I rarely talk to any of my friends back in the states... But I do know that once I get back to Oregon (if ever?) it will be like I never left. Which is nice to know in the back of my head. But it's just amazing how true the saying "out of sight, out of mind" is.
And then, what do you do when you have some people trying to be your friends, but you think they're dumber than a box of rocks? Seriously, this is an issue...
I wonder if I expect too much out of my friends? I seriously think that isn't the problem. I expect from friends, as much from them as I would give them myself. It's a 50/50 partner relationship, I am pretty sure both sides have to do a little bit of work to stay together! Just like a marriage! lol. But... less touchy!
So what do you do when you feel like you've grown out of the friends that aren't really hanging out with you anymore? Do you just blow it off? Do you make new friends? How do YOU make new friends? Or do you hermit and hang out with your computer/furry kids/kids/spouse/whatever instead of making new friends?